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Engage Your Teen: Monitor Activities

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Monitoring is an effective strategy for reducing risky behaviors. Research shows that kids who are not regularly monitored by their parents are four times more likely to use drugs.

  • Be supportive of good behavior. If you can’t be with your kids after school, make sure theirtime is filled with planned activities, not just hanging out with friends.
  • Monitoring your teen’s activities does not mean that you don’t trust them, it shows that you care. In 2014, 83% of parents strongly agreed or agreed: “Parents should take steps like checking with other parents, using curfews and requiring their children to check-in during the evening to prevent underage drinking.”

Before they go out

  • Find out where they are going.
  • Determine what they will be doing.
  • Verify who they will be with.
  • Confirm the curfew and expectations
  • Remind them that you will give them a ride
    if needed.
  • Call other parents to confirm your teen’s plans.

While they are gone

  • Check in with teens periodically or require your
    teens to check in with you.
  • Teenagers who think their parents will check on
    them are less likely to take risks.

When they get home

  • Ask about their activity and time away.
  • Don’t make assumptions – ask and find out. It is
    important for you to know the truth, so be direct.
  • Tell your teen it is okay to be honest.
  • Remain calm.

In Oregon

  • 83% of parents usually or always find out if an adult is present when their child goes to someone else’s house.
  • 81% of parents usually or always use a curfew with their child.
  • 86% of parents usually or always require their child to check in or call when they are out.

Monitoring is not pestering, it’s parenting.

From Oregon mORe